Comments on: compromise, shmompromise http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/ Susan Piver - Meditation, Relationships, Creativity Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:23:40 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8 hourly 1 By: canali http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/#comment-2086 canali Tue, 03 Nov 2009 06:24:06 +0000 http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/#comment-2086 i like this too: reminds me of a book i came across which is basically we're human, acknowledge such (and i'm not talking about overlooking addictive or codependent or abusive behaviours) and it's in our DNA to want to be with someone special...that to have love we have to be more open and vulnerable first...book and site is called 'hold me tight' www.holdmetight.net/reviews.php i like this too: reminds me of a book i came across which is basically we’re human, acknowledge such (and i’m not talking about overlooking addictive or codependent or abusive behaviours) and it’s in our DNA to want to be with someone special…that to have love we have to be more open and vulnerable first…book and site is called ‘hold me tight’
http://www.holdmetight.net/reviews.php

]]> By: sandy http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/#comment-184 sandy Sat, 03 Nov 2007 04:35:03 +0000 http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/#comment-184 HERE-HERE, BRAVO!!! i love this thread! what's with the huge laundry lists people have these days? describing them as "reservoirs of fear" is brilliant! i'm honestly beginning to feel like people who say they want meaningful relationships are unconsciously yet deliberately sabotaging themselves. and there also seems to be this terrible feeling of entitlement. "i deserve the best, and won't settle for anything less than exactly what i want", like they're shopping for a new pair of shoes, and always looking for something better. people have become material posessions. status symbols. items in a catalog or on a rack. perused, tried on, and discarded in a constant futile search for ideal. people are not shoes. HERE-HERE, BRAVO!!! i love this thread! what’s with the huge laundry lists people have these days? describing them as “reservoirs of fear” is brilliant! i’m honestly beginning to feel like people who say they want meaningful relationships are unconsciously yet deliberately sabotaging themselves. and there also seems to be this terrible feeling of entitlement. “i deserve the best, and won’t settle for anything less than exactly what i want”, like they’re shopping for a new pair of shoes, and always looking for something better. people have become material posessions. status symbols. items in a catalog or on a rack. perused, tried on, and discarded in a constant futile search for ideal.

people are not shoes.

]]> By: Lauren http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/#comment-34 Lauren Wed, 29 Aug 2007 18:35:13 +0000 http://www.susanpiver.com/wordpress/2007/06/22/compromise-shmompromise/#comment-34 I've been reading your articles and your insight about life and love and it has given me such inspiration. I was on the verge of breaking up with my boyfriend and the moment he came to get his stuff I fell apart and realized I couldn't let him go. We both apologized for our hurtful behaviors to each other and decided to give our relationship another try. My parents were shocked to hear that we are still continuing to see each other and unfortunatly my mother doesn't agree with my decision. She doesn't think he's my type. He's nothing what I talked about wanting in a partner, she says. She thinks he's controlling, just because he likes to talk to me throughout the day while we're at work, though email or cell phone texting. I realized that my dreams of the perfect tall dark and handsome man are unrealistic. I wanted my partner to be this or that. The truth is my boyfriend is the complete opposite. He always wanting to be with me, telling me how much he loves me. For awhile I felt really suffocated by this, use to spending a lot of alone time before. Allowing someone to be apart of my life in every aspect frankly freats me out. However I am learning so much about myslef and he helps me be more vocal about my emotions. I am not sure if I will ever make my mother understand. I think her bias comes from her initial surprise that he was completely different from what she expected. I struggle with how I am going to deal with wanting to be with my boyfriend and making my mother feel comfortable. As of now I've decided to do what's right for me, to make me happy, and that's staying with him cause there is so much love that surrounds us. I’ve been reading your articles and your insight about life and love and it has given me such inspiration. I was on the verge of breaking up with my boyfriend and the moment he came to get his stuff I fell apart and realized I couldn’t let him go. We both apologized for our hurtful behaviors to each other and decided to give our relationship another try. My parents were shocked to hear that we are still continuing to see each other and unfortunatly my mother doesn’t agree with my decision. She doesn’t think he’s my type. He’s nothing what I talked about wanting in a partner, she says. She thinks he’s controlling, just because he likes to talk to me throughout the day while we’re at work, though email or cell phone texting.
I realized that my dreams of the perfect tall dark and handsome man are unrealistic. I wanted my partner to be this or that. The truth is my boyfriend is the complete opposite. He always wanting to be with me, telling me how much he loves me. For awhile I felt really suffocated by this, use to spending a lot of alone time before. Allowing someone to be apart of my life in every aspect frankly freats me out. However I am learning so much about myslef and he helps me be more vocal about my emotions. I am not sure if I will ever make my mother understand. I think her bias comes from her initial surprise that he was completely different from what she expected. I struggle with how I am going to deal with wanting to be with my boyfriend and making my mother feel comfortable. As of now I’ve decided to do what’s right for me, to make me happy, and that’s staying with him cause there is so much love that surrounds us.

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