Comments on: The Step Mothership

By: Louise

Louise — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 21:44:28 +0000

What a wonderful description of your relationship with your stepson. I’m not surprised that you love one another. And I know that your parents are thrilled that he calls them “Grandma” and “Grandpa”! Such a compliment! Yes, a complete family!

By: susan

susan — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 23:08:27 +0000

Jesse! You are Mr. Dad. It’s a difficult situation you present–should you not get with women who have kids BECAUSE you love kids?? It sounds strange but I totally understand. All I can say is I hope you meet an amazing woman with amazing kids and it can be totally simple…one can dream…

Will check out your aunt–

By: jesse

jesse — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 11:06:20 +0000

oh and also, the real me at:
http://mypage.iu.edu/~jloop

By: jesse

jesse — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 11:02:13 +0000

darn sad to hear you’re married. (ok just kidding, am not that shallow)…found you tonight on twitter, followed (love your comment re: you’re supposed to, it’s not stalking-sure feels like it because of wording=”follow” couldn’t it be, “tag along” or something…lurk was taken i guess…lol.
sooo, i have had it with this all…all of it…i’m down right determined to change it, all.
starting with the commander in chief, i hate to go all mainstream and with the “kid” from chicago, but darn it, think of another four years of someone even remotely close to bush? ok, get my point…plus, obama isn’t all that bad even for a politician (i’d work on his cabinet so i hope he doesn’t read this, unlikely).
k, and…oh yeah…i keep meeting women with kids. I have a kid (i’m a single “mom” (only i’m male) of 13 years now-she’s 15)) and uh…it’s complicated.
I had two stepsons before i had a kid w/their mom. then had two stepdaughters w/my younger daughters mom- and recently just broke off a 19 month relationship w/ a mom of a boy and a girl…
now…here’s the meat of this…so i’m feeling like i can’t take another kid being a “used to be” stepkid. I don’t like going in and out of their lives, even in as much as i have-which i try to stay in their lives but that’s been tested seriously by the total breakdown between the one mom and me, and the geography between the others and me…
so do i just absolutely give up on dating anyone with kids? but I love kids…sigh…you know.
anyways, kudos for the two of you working thru all that time between 94-97, that had to have been a tough situation.
oh, and i’m impressed with your blog and site and the appearance you present, or should i say my first impression of that appearance, etc…
you’d like my aunt…i bet…twitter/clairefrances see what you think…
thanks…sorry was long…don’t have to save it on your comments, but hope you read it before taking it down…
best,
jesse
http://jesseloop.blogspot.com
myspace.com/jesatiu
twitter.com/jesatiu

By: susan

susan — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 03:06:14 +0000

Grant, thanks so much for commenting and I truly wish you the love that you missed from your steps. Hope that doesn’t sound too mushy.

By: susan

susan — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 03:00:52 +0000

Davee, yes, that was me in the red beret.

By: Davee

Davee — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 02:29:07 +0000

oh susan, what a wonderful story. thank you for sharing that and getting me all misty. love loved it.

i came also to ask a random question; we met at karme choling in recent past but while researching the guardian angels i thought i may have come across your name as well. did you used to wear a red beret?

By: Grant

Grant — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 02:06:30 +0000

Wow. I only wish either of my steps cared half as much at any point along the way. You’re truly an awesome person… but hey, what else would you expect from a Buddhist?

By: susan

susan — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:20:28 +0000

Cathy, hello and thank you so much for commenting. It’s really interesting to hear from the bio parent half of the parenting duo. I’m glad you were struck my some things in my post and I’m struck by your love and appreciation for your husband and his efforts. I can’t imagine that this wasn’t a major part of how you became a family. The bio parent is in such a difficult situation–reconciling love for kids with love for new spouse. Sounds like you and he managed to stay connected throughout. With ups and downs, I’m sure. Bravo.

By: susan

susan — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:10:02 +0000

Robert, thank you for your comment! I’m not being self-deprecating when I say that my stepson is just as responsible as I am for our good relationship. He’s remarkably self-aware and very, very loving. And verbal. Which makes things a lot easier.

I love that we have psychic RSS!! I just love that. Let’s try to transmit the seeds of enlightenment and see what happens.