that said, we do often blame our emotions on the “other”. so then how to discuss that without sounding nihilistic, sound like it’s all projection. that’s what i hear in her tone, that i can completely ignore you if you complain about my not walking the dog. maybe she isn’t saying that really, but it just seems like there could be a way of expressing both the quality of story/projection/etc. – the quality of self projection into the environment – and at the same time acknowledge the relative interplay and interdependence of the situation and one’s emotional state. we start where we are. our klesha arises from our karma. just ignoring that as project seems too heaven and not enough earth: too much like pushing away the reality of our experience in the name of some ultimate. maybe it’s just presenting view and not path, and later she talks about path?

best,
davee